Each week for the last six years (with a few lapses at vacation times, etc.!), Paul has found or written something he hoped would help clients and friends get some valuable insight into work and living. Stories, quotes from famous and not so famous people, humor, poetry—something to provoke thinking and action around:
- being genuinely oneself,
- being generous with other people and oneself, and
- being generative of good, beneficial work
- and other useful and/or provocative subjects
The best one or two of the previous month are featured here. Come and visit often—you might find something you can use.
This month's quote:
A story in the March 6th Boston Globe Magazine caught my attention. The author talks about when he was a young, desperate vacuum cleaner salesman. The game was to find any way to get through the door, and then demonstrate his “Golden Jubilee” edition by vacuuming up residual dirt and showing it to the prospective customer/mark, who was usually the woman of the house. It was an old trick to vacuum up dirt in a rug that had just been cleaned by her current, obviously inferior, machine. Here are author Howard Mansfield’s own words: "Then one day a young woman who lived nearby came into the Electrolux showroom. She lived behind the shop in a two-room apartment that made you feel lonely just looking at it. She couldn’t afford even a reconditioned economy model. I was about to talk her into using a broom when one of the old salesmen took over.…..after 15 minutes, the woman left with a new model, the extra power nozzle, and a booklet of high-interest payments stretching for years. She had no idea what she’d just spent." [Here’s where, when I was reading this story, I got aggravated and was ready to break the knuckles of the manipulative, ratty, salesman. The story continued:] "And, yet, the old salesman was right: Who was I to tell her what size her dream should be? This was more than a deluxe vacuum; it was a promise to herself that one day she’d have the house to go with it. She was serving notice to her husband: This is how I want to live—like all these people in these big houses we see. The old guy had sold her a dream machine. That’s what successful salesmen sell, and that’s why we keep buying." I was reminded, reading this, of the time in 2003 when Peter Feinmann sat in the old kitchen we hated and said: “You could be very happy for years to come in this big old house with your large family coming and going—all you need to do is fix your deck structure, your foundation, replace the kitchen and build a new bathroom. And repair the termite damage and replace the floors. (!) If you try to sell it the way it is, it’s a handyman special and you won’t get much for it, but if you fix it up the way its charm deserves you’ll preserve it for another 100 years and enjoy it with your family.” Somehow, Peter gave us a vision of the possibilities of the place, regardless that it was going to cost us a LOT more than a vacuum cleaner on credit. We bit; for way too close to the purchase price of the house in 1987, we renovated the house in 2004, and we’ve been loving it ever since, just like Peter prophesied. Putting those two stories together, I thought of a third narrative—something much more exciting to me than vacuum cleaners and house renovations. I’m also a salesman—like the old guy with the Electrolux and Peter Feinmann with his house visions. What I get to do is sell people on their own magnificence and then help them bring more of it forth. The dirt and termites aren’t hard to find, but I don’t have to manipulate them into a better vision for themselves—most of them know about it already (some more consciously than others), but they most often haven’t become completely true believers, yet. I have faith in them, absolutely. I know what can happen. Watching the awakening, midwifing the delivery of the improved version, tough loving the self-betrayers, helping the blind-sided to see. I suppose it sounds rather grandiose of me to describe it that way, but there it is. And it’s not about me, after all. When the raspberry is ready, it comes off the stem of its own accord with just a gentle push, falls into fresh soil, and sprouts multiple new canes that spring up with vigor. The genetic material is all in the berry. This old husbandman just nudges it loose and helps pull up a few weeds. Is that fun? You can imagine……

